I made these.
[Linked article below my commentary has some NSFW language. Heads up.]
[Also, my commentary is a bit lengthy.]
Pam Stenzel is a rather popular abstinence-only speaker, particularly around religious groups that encourage such practices (although recently, she’s been touring around public schools, as well), and many of her videos were played during my high school religion classes. Actually, during what may have been my junior or senior year, she was at one of the local universities giving a speech that many of my fellow classmates wanted to see. I remember I even wanted to see her in person, simply because she truly can be this dazzling combination of - as the article states - a “manic stand-up and evangelist preacher.”
One of her famous catch phrases is “But we love each other~!” said in a petulant whine imitating her teenage (or, rather, her non-married) followers who are interested in the idea of sexual activity. Said catchphrase could be heard echoing in the hallways of my alma mater in an equally mocking tone by some of us, even in our early teens. Ms. Stenzel argues that people should be in a committed marriage before engaging in sexual activity of any variety, but once married, you can have the best sex of your life. Which, hearing that during adolescence, is an exciting idea because sex is on the minds of most adolescents at the time.
But the danger lies in the facts that Ms. Stenzel twists into her lectures. I won’t go into many of them, but it’s all very curious because she lists terrible effects that may come from pre-marital sex (“scarred fallopian tubes and cancer” among others, including the need to ask Jesus for forgiveness), but somehow these don’t exist once a wedding ring is upon each person’s right hand ring finger. There are numerous pieces of wild misinformation being taught to men and women who have either just started to experience sexual feelings and activity, or are just about to embark on that journey. At very best, this is a fine example of internalized misogyny and slut-shaming. At worst, young men and women will be horribly misinformed and may be more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections (STIs), more likely to get pregnant, and lack the practical knowledge of where to get help when and if it is needed.
Comprehensive sexual education is not something that all school districts or educational institutions have. This is a fact. Religiously based educational institutions are also likely to lack full comprehensive sexual education due to the prevalence of abstinence-only teaching. This is also a fact. But, why does that matter?
By having a working knowledge of the male and female anatomy – especially the reproductive capacities and risks of each – they can then apply all of the lessons learned in health classes or other classes that teach sexual education to that model. Going further, by knowing that abstinence is easily the most 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy or STI’s, but also knowing how to make sure to eliminate as much risk as feasibly possible (through barrier methods, other forms of birth control, and STI testing as well as a thorough understanding of health practices and practitioners), young men and women can make the best choices for themselves in the long term.
Ms. Stenzel also spends a fair amount of time talking about abortion and how it’s this terrible, terrible thing that can only happen when you make mistakes and have sex before marriage (because, y’know, abortions don’t happen after people are married — sarcasm). Many articles point to her list of “anorexia, bulimia, and cutting” as after-effects to the procedure, even though two of those are actual disorders that may be more related to how a person became pregnant, and the third may be due to any number of other things present before the abortion itself. However, if that whole comprehensive sexual education concept were to take off, the number of abortions would drop because people would be prepared with enough knowledge to be safe. But, it goes back immediately to Ms. Stenzel’s modus operandi: trying to strike fear into the hearts of the non-married individuals so that premarital sex doesn’t happen; with the fear of abortion being a large, real threat (due to a less than thorough education), she still has the control in her hand.
The song that Sungmin & Sunny are singing is called “Falling Slowly” and it was an Oscar winning song from the movie (which has been turned into a Broadway musical) ONCE.
I had just watched an ad on Youtube for the Tony award winning musical, which featured a snipped of a song that sounded remarkably familiar. You see, this cover that Sungmin & Sunny had done has been in my iTunes library for a very long time, and I have had the performance saved in my Youtube favourites for even longer. Naturally, being the fangirl that I am, I freaked out and flailed excitedly, realising the connection.
As a result, I share with you their wonderful cover of a really beautiful song - and encourage everyone to check out the original here.
“Surprise!” “No, this is Patrick!”
Surprised Patrick surprised me at Southern Connecticut’s fitness center yesterday, hidden in the paper towel dispenser.
“Lily, there are a million reasons why I love you. You make me laugh, and you take care of me when I’m sick. You’re sweet, caring, and you even created an egg dish and named it after me. It’s called “Egg Marshall,” and it’s awesome. But the main reason that I love you is that you’re my best friend, Lily. You’re the best friend I ever had.”
“Marshall, I love you because you’re funny, and you make me feel loved and you make me feel safe and for our anniversary, you gave me a sweatshirt that says “Lily and Marshall: Rocking it since ‘96.” I kinda wish I was wearing it right now cause it smells like you. But the main reason I love you, Marshall Eriksen, is you make me happy. You make me happy all the time.”
After being snowed in and not being home for a week due to the Snowpocalypse of 2013, I went for an interview for a graduate assistant position in the school of education at my university.
I just got the call from the woman who interviewed me, offering me the full time graduate assistant position which will even carry out into the summer.
I am so excited, you guys. :D
— - Blanche Devereaux, Golden Girls (Season 3, Episode 17: “My Brother, My Father”).
My boyfriend is amazing.
He’s coming up to see me.
I love him.
Like, all those times women’s studies seminars tried to come up with tangible steps toward dismantling patriarchy
and somehow NO ONE ever thought of
“Beyonce performs at the superbowl, blows the power out, ends the superbowl.”
When I was in preschool there was this really weird system of time-out where they’d put you in this giant plastic bucket sort of like this one:
And the rule was you couldn’t leave the bucket for ten minutes.
In case you didn’t know, I was what the teachers referred to as a “difficult child” which is code for “walking entity of sass” so I was in the time-out bucket quite a bit.
Once they put me in the bucket for thirty minutes— and I thought that was incredibly unfair so I grabbed the handles and shifted my body repeatedly until the bucket and I were out of the classroom, in the hallway, and through the front door. They found me in the parking lot scooting to freedom in the time-out bucket. The teachers were furious and I said, “Hey, I never left the bucket”
So they called my mum and told her what I did and she just said, “Well, he never left the bucket.”
I haven’t laughed so hard in ages
This is the most amazing thing I have ever seen.
…THE TWELFTH DOCTOR
i always knew our president was a time lord